Friday, March 13, 2015

PSA: Then Comes Family

A while back I wrote a draft post about all the drama that happened at The Bump (hereafter and forever known as The Dump or TD) but it was chalk full of expletives and high emotion. I meant to revisit and edit the post but never got around to it (bad me)! I wanted to share with you all what happened (briefly) and let you know where you can find an awesome support network.

So, a quick recap for those who don't know: A little over two months ago I jumped on TD, what I considered to be my biggest support network in addition to IDOB, to chat with my girls and read updates on where everyone is on their journeys. Upon logging on, I realized that our ever wonderful leader, NariaDreaming, had been banned. I was shocked, as was everyone else. A pillar of our community, just gone? Upon doing some sleuthing, I discovered that other beloved mods had been banned as well. I had an idea of where to find Naria so I tracked her down. Basically, (the totally short and incomplete version) TD decided that they didn't appreciate constructive feedback from their mods and banned them and some members without warning. It caused a huge uproar in the community and prompted a mass exodus across the entire forum. A few weeks later, those that stayed behind and straddled both boards to help direct members to our new place and to offer support to Newbies, also let completely when TD had some kind of glitch that changed some screen names to people's IRL names. The place that we all trusted and considered home had betrayed our trust and hurt our own, so we left!

Where did we all go? Well, due to the amazing foresight and awesomeness of Naria, she created a new home for us on ProBoards, originally called GCBC or Goodbye Cruel Bump. Literally thousands of women jumped ship. For people like me, who don't do change, it was an oddly smooth transition because we all moved together.

Now, this community, which is 7500+ strong is becoming permanent and even has plans to build a website with community driven content to offer information, advice and support to everyone. The new name? Then Comes Family. You can find it here: www.thencomesfamily.com/community It is a fast growing online community for everyone from people just thinking about starting a family to parents and those living CLNBC and everything in between. There are literally boards for everyone. So if you haven't already, come join us!

5 comments:

  1. Great to hear you've found a new place. I've had loved boards change their layouts and much more and hated it so much that I left, never to really go back. I hope your new "home" stays great!

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    1. I hope so too and I think it will! We have an amazing group of ladies running things and the community support is unending :)

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  2. Love this! I was never big on the boards but have found a home in a super-secret FB group that functions sort of like the boards, only a bit smaller. The women I've met through there - the friendships I've made - they are what keep me going during my bumpy, bumpy journey through IF. Glad you found a new home for you and your tribe!

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    1. Between the boards and the FB group I am a part of, I've found such an amazing group of women whose support I couldn't get by without. IF is a hard road to travel and no one should do it alone, I'm glad you've found a place of support as well!

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  3. Than you for the vote of confidence!

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